I struggle with the "right" way to remember Rip. At this point, we don't have any sort of race or charitable event in his name...maybe one day we will, but who knows.
So I was thinking last night about what I want Rip's legacy to be, especially during this week where his little life, however brief, changed us forever.
There are two things that came to mind...
If you are a mother (or father) of a living child, I ask you to hold that child a little closer and a little longer this week. Not at all in a "because you never know" sort of way, as if as parents we aren't nervous wrecks enough as it is!
No, I ask you to do this because one of the wonderful gifts Rip gave me was the ability to do this more often with Gracie. I know myself well enough to know that by nature I like to move quickly through life, eager to get to the next thing. Rip's life taught me to savor every wonderful moment as a mother. It isn't always easy to do, but to quote Jack Johnson, "when the whole world fits inside of your arms" it's worth taking a few extra minutes a day to realize it.
The second thing I ask you to do this week is, if you know a mama (or daddy) who has lost a child, take some time to say a prayer or send a good thought... or whatever it is you believe helps...her way. Because her heart is breaking and she needs some extra love. Pray for her peace.
Rip's life introduced me to many of these Mamas, some of the strongest, most incredible mamas in the world, so it is only fitting that they receive some extra love this week.
Remembering Rip with babies and mamas...it just seems right to me.